How Well Do You Know Your Partner?
Paying Real Attention
You know the big picture and a lot of the details. A few blind spots left — worth closing them.
Try This: Pick your lowest-confidence answer above and actually ask them about it today.
What this looks like day to day
You've got the substance right. You know what matters to them, what they're worried about, and what they'd want on a bad day. The gaps are in the smaller details — a preference here, a name there — the kind of thing that's easy to miss and easy to fix. Most couples are somewhere around here, and it's a genuinely good place to be. You're also likely to be the one who remembers the things that matter on a hard day — which of their colleagues is difficult, what they're dreading this week — even if you'd fumble a question about their favourite film.
Where it gets difficult
The main risk at this level is coasting. You know enough to get by, which removes the pressure to ask anything new, and over a few years "enough" slowly becomes out of date. The fix isn't studying them — it's changing the questions. Move past logistics and into what they're actually thinking about now. A deck of prompts helps here precisely because it asks things you wouldn't have thought to ask.